People are where they are because that is exactly where they really want to be - whether they will admit that or not.
To decide, to be at the level of choice, is to take responsibility for your life and to be in control of your life.
Every person, all the events of your life are drawn there because you have them there. What you choose to do with them is up to you.
Our children seem to have wonderful taste, or none - depending, of course, on whether or not they agree with us.